I like how Lestrade and Moriarty, two people from Sherlock’s past, claimed to know him better than Watson does in moments where they were CLEARLY jealous of the Joan/Sherlock bond. Lestrade jealous because now Watson had the chance to be the ‘special’ one, Moriarty jealous because now Sherlock has someone else in his life that he cares about.
I don’t think they know Sherlock better. Lestrade and Sherlock were “never really that close” and well, Moriarty had a relationship with Sherlock that lasted what? 7 months? And remember that Moriarty travelled a lot and they possibly spent several weeks apart? Yeah, not an extensive period of convivence either.
Joan lives with Sherlock for more than a year. They share the same house. They work together. They are together 24/7. Joan even met his brother. She goes where he goes.
To me it’s obvious that Joan knows him better. Not only because of their extraordinary and unique connection. She just does. When you share your life with someone, you two grow together. You know this person better because you’re there all the time, watching the change.
Moriarty and Lestrade knew the drug addict who never gave a shit about anyone else other than himself. Watson knows the recovering drug addict who shows empathy and considers her opinion as valuable as his own. I doubt Sherlock proposed a partnership to Lestrade the way he did to Watson, for example. Just look how brash the beginning of his relationship with Moriarty was. “Oh you’re pretty and clever let’s have dinner and bang later”. With Watson, he is cautious up to eleven even today. “I don’t mean to pry” or “Sorry, I intruded”. The difference about him, empirically speaking, is her. He is different. It’s a fact. They don’t know him so well anymore.
On the other hand, we all know how Watson suffers from self-esteem issues. Her partnership with Sherlock made her trust more in herself. But all these “I know him better than you” are, to me, an attempt of these two jealous people who want to mine their relationship because they are feeling the loss of Sherlock’s attention and, most importantly, they want to mine Watson’s confidence.
If it’s working or not, only the next episodes can explain.
moriarty sooo does not know sherlock better. she had him investigated for a while, then nailed him for a couple of months. get over yourself, girl. seriously. her thing is, she knows herself, and she wants to believe sherlock is exactly like her.
lestrade definitely doesn’t either. until this point, they’d never shared the same space. while sherlock cares about lestrade, it’s nothing close to the connection he has with joan. lestrade is definitely blinded by the sherlock he knew. it doesn’t occur to him that sherlock could open himself up to someone else, or that a woman who’s known him for only 18 months plus could have him figured out.
and yet, given that neither of these goofs know sherlock better than joan, both of their stances highlight that there are a lot of facets of sherlock that joan has no perspective on. that’s what is really striking me about those exchanges. lestrade and moriarty won’t be around for god knows how long, so ultimately it isn’t about them. it’s about joan and sherlock.